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4/9/2008

What a month this has been! Not only has my back been giving me problems, but my diabetes has as well…when it rains, it pours! My back actually started easing off to the point of being bearable about the time my stepfather fell and fractured his shoulder last Friday. At 86 years old and being a dialysis patient, means he’s what most would consider very “frail”. Since I’m caregiver to both he and my mother, having a hurt back just didn’t seem to have a place in the grand scheme of things. If nothing else, those people who take on the task of being a caregiver to any elderly person knows that many times it requires putting your own needs on the backburner. I can say, I’ve been thankful for the painkillers and muscle relaxers, but truthfully no matter what I take, there are times that the drugs do practically nothing. At that point it becomes mind over matter…

I’ve read through all the comments that have been left for me. I’ve also read my email and messages…I do intend to answer everyone, but I have to voice some concern here about the people who don’t seem to get that I have a life which includes having a full time job, taking care of my two elderly parents, having some serious health problems myself and every now and then having days that resembles everyone else's . Most of you seem to understand that my blog is my way to relax…writing is probably my closest friend right now. I would like to apologize for my lack of free time which is the reason why I am the neglectful twit some of you think I am. If I did have free time, I guess I might search for some creative, wonderful mid-life crisis or go out and do something fun like find myself a hot 35-year old lover…and yes, I would definitely answer each comment, message, and email sent my way and spend countless hours writing witty things on everyone else's blogs! There will be no apologies from me for me being me, but I can and will apologize for not having the time to jump into this blogosphere with both feet and give it my all. I’m afraid that this is as much as I have to give of myself and if that falls short of anyone’s expectations, then cest la vie…

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	Mark Blasingamewrote: I'm soooo sorry to hear about your back. I can empathize with you. Fortunately after two surgeries for ruptured disks, things are hunky dory. I hope you can get some relief and get to feeling better soon. Apr. 14
	Greg Hyattwrote: I can relate to what you are talking about! I suffer from CHF and COPD and both can be fatal if not kept up with on a daily basis! I, too, enjoy working throughout the many Social Network's that I am a part of as well as actively submit blogs to! I can truly understand what you mean when you say you have a life that exist above and beyond the inner sanctum of your computer! I have to admit that the one thing that truly grates my nerves on my "MySpace" page is that people often think that if you do not reply within seconds of them leaving comments or messages that you are ignoring them. Most people do not understand that many of us must work our butts off to provide and care for our families. Not like we are trying to delibrately ignore them, just have to take care of the more important issues in life first! I have enjoyed reading some of your blogs and I hope that sometime when you are free that you will pop through and take a peek at some of mine! May God Bless you and your family and carry you through all of your trials. Apr. 13
	Wayward Billwrote: *Karen,* *I will continue to offer care & support from afar. Prayers for you and yours!* *Do you have medical marijuana in Florida???? It's great for the back pain!* *Peace, Love, Hippie Stuff,* *Wayward Bill* Apr. 12
	Mikewrote: Good to read you are at least able to sit and type again. Time is never our friend, no matter our situation. One thing I learned many years ago as part of a lecture in an organization I belong to, was how to manage time. (A simple statement that summed up months of Army leadership training regarding time.): "Rightly dividing our time: whereby we find 8 hours for service to God and a distressed worthy person (brother), 8 hours for our usual vocations, and 8 hours for refreshment and sleep." If you try this for a couple days, a week if possible, you find it will help. You have to fudge a little here and there, but overall, it is sage advice. Take care, and let me know if you find that 35 year old, maybe he has a sister. L8r Apr. 12
	Zeynep Ankarawrote: Sorry about your troubles. Hope all things go well in your life soon. Cheers, Zeynep. Apr. 12
	Bruce Bradleywrote: I am so sorry that you are having such a rough time now. I can understand back problems and also diabetes andboth are very discomforting. Some days there is really nothing you can do to feel better. All you can do is live with it and it makes that time of your life miserable. I do hope you get to feeling better and good luck with your parents. I do know it hard lift someone when they can't do it by themselves so be careful not to hurt yourself more. Please don't worry about replying until you have time and you feel better. I really want to thank you for your good advise and helping hand when I needed it. Good luck and take care of yourself. Apr. 11
	Jacqueline M SeiWellwrote: Don't let what others think cause you a moments sleep. I read a few blogs as they come across my desk, I have groups that I post and blog in. Not even active right now but for those times when others need to let it out and don't have blogs to do it in, My group spots are there. You are like super woman to me. I'm disabled with my back and looking at a couple more surgeries right now. I have all I can do to do what I do online and take care of myself. I don't know how to have a full time job, care take two other people and just live your own life with all that. I understand though because writing is a great peace maker for my mind, so I guess you look at it as relaxation. It's unloading the extra crap that weighs the world down around you and writing is a wonderful way of letting it go so don't go picking up any new crap along the way. You are doing wonderful in my eyes. LJ Apr. 10
	.wrote: I'm just glad you are okay. Apr. 10
	Jnutsazwrote: You know how I feel about people who 'don't get it'....fuck em. Real life trumps blog life. Like you, when blogging becomes burdensome, interferes with reality or just isn't fun anymore, I back off until I have the time (or the inclination) to take on the peculiarities of this strange virtualworld. That said, I'm sorry to hear about the back problems, diabetes etc. I'm in the same boat at the moment...except for the caregiving (since the MILK passed on). I never thought I'd be of an age where conversation would be centered around health problems, but life has a way of slapping us upside the head...wanna talk HMO? Ugh. From one baby boomer to another, Keep on truckin' Jnuts Apr. 10
	Karen Goggins Millerwrote: Thanks Nina! A massage sounds great! It's nice to know that most people out here are supportive of each others endeavors. It really freaks me out when I get messages, emails and comments from people who really do expect me to drop what I'm doing RIGHT THEN AND THERE and answer their message and if I don't, they take my lack of time personally like my absense is aimed at offending only them. I can't figure out if the problem is that they have even less of a life than I do and cyberspace is "it" for them or if they're just needy people who have really high expectations of the whole blogging experience and of the internet, in general. In my 11 years out here in cyberspace I've learned that when one gives too much it usually ends badly. Yes, I've met some terrific people in the last 11 years and some of them have lapsed over into real life relationships, but the fact of the matter is that right now I don't have time to barely take care of my own needs let alone the needs of strangers. That may sound like I don't care...it's not that at all. I just have some things that outweigh attending to my blog and socializing. Perhaps I should have never come back when I did after being gone about 9 months, but like I said, writing has become my closest friend and even though I've been neglectful to it lately, it's still there for me and expects nothing in return. I'm truly thankful for those people who understand that my life won't always be like this and at some point I can resume getting to know people that frequent my blog. Apr. 10
	Ninawrote: I send you all my well wishes!!! If you lived closer...I would invite you over and give you a free massage! (I still have my old table from my former life as a massage therapist!) That is a tremendous thing that you're doing, working full-time and taking care of your two elderly parents! I don't know if I could do that...I have a hard enough time just getting myself out of bed on some mornings. Hope you take some time out for yourself! Wish I could send you that hot 35-year old lover to pep up your energy and give you that much needed back massage... XXBest wishes, Nina Apr. 9

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